An 'infantalist'? Meet Stanley, the 'adult baby'

When 29-year-old Stanley gets home from a hard day at work, he just wants to kick back with a nice bottle of milk, his pacifier and maybe play around with some Legos. As an "adult baby," the California man likes to pretend he's an infant, while being cared for by his roommate, a former nurse. It's called infantalism, and although for many it can be a kind of sexual fetish, that's not the case for Stanley, he tells National Geographic.

"For most of us, you're doing it to relax, you come home from work, and you change into baby mode, and, you know, you put away all your adult stuff and everything gets on hold," explains Stanley, who's been doing this since he was 14.

Tonight, Stanley will be featured on the National Geographic show "Taboo," where he'll get to show off all the customized baby gear he's constructed, including an oversized drop-side crib and a regular-sized playpen that he reinforced to be able to support 350 pounds. (He's also building a super-sized high chair, a project he's been planning for a year and a half.)

He says he does it "just to get the love and affection (and) safeness" that's lost when we leave our infancy. And he keeps the baby play within his house, switching to "adult mode" when he leaves the house. "I've had some people that are perfectly fine with it and I've had others that are just automatically angry, like they think you're a pedophile," says Stanley (who, by the way, looks a lot like Cam from "Modern Family.")

What do you think of "infantalism," and Stanley, the adult baby? Have you ever heard of such a thing before? And did you realize that onesies are actually pretty easy to come by online?

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I've heard of this before. Whatever. He's not hurting anyone, but it seems like a waste of time.

  • 9 votes
#1 - Wed May 4, 2011 9:13 PM EDT

I see grown ups act like babies all of the time.

  • 13 votes
#1.1 - Wed May 4, 2011 11:39 PM EDT

Come on grow up thats just the stuipdest think ive heard!

  • 5 votes
#1.2 - Thu May 5, 2011 12:47 AM EDT

Wait is that beer in the bottle Lol

  • 3 votes
#1.3 - Thu May 5, 2011 1:05 AM EDT

Shame on you MSNBC, for putting this on the MSN homepage. I thought was a reputable source for news. This is exactly whats wrong with people nowadays making "News".

  • 7 votes
#1.4 - Thu May 5, 2011 1:59 AM EDT

There is obviously something fundamentally broken in our society if this kind of regressive behavior is going on. I feel sorry for a man that is so afraid of life he has given up on it, and has drug down his roommate as well. Very sad.

  • 9 votes
#1.5 - Thu May 5, 2011 3:39 AM EDT

It's no different then a person going to a bar for a drink or two to wind down. Whatever he does inside his own home is his business, however, to publicise his penchant for adult infancy seems to make you wonder if it's just a way of getting his brief moment of fame.

  • 5 votes
#1.6 - Thu May 5, 2011 6:10 AM EDT

Can't believe you MSNBC once again for being so stupid as to posting such an artical. I really can't believe where we have come in the last 10 yrs or so. It's the norm now to read stuff like this now. I feel so bad that we have left our kids and grandkids to grow up in this kind of world. For the writer that chose this artical, i hope you don't have any kids!

  • 6 votes
#1.7 - Thu May 5, 2011 7:12 AM EDT

mary, this article is based on one episode of National Geographic's new series, "Taboo".

http://channel.nationalgeographic.com/series/taboo/5333/Overview

It apparently will address many "taboos" throughout the world. The writer didn't just go out and seek material on this topic - she basically summarized the TV show.

For the record, yes, indeed, I DO think this is very, very strange.....But apparently, it is benign.

  • 7 votes
#1.8 - Thu May 5, 2011 7:25 AM EDT

I see a lot of grownups acting like babies without the pacifiers.

  • 2 votes
#1.9 - Thu May 5, 2011 9:21 AM EDT

Looks like baby Huey to me

  • 1 vote
#1.10 - Thu May 5, 2011 9:28 AM EDT

'Judge not, lest ye also be judged.' Now, where have I read that? [/sarcasm]

Who does this harm? No one. What does he do that affects others? Nothing I can see. Where it occurs, is it a problem? Nothing is apparent. Why this man does it, is it a problem in his own life? It would seem to be harmless. When he does it, does it prevent him from taking care of his own needs or stop him from functioning in his job or paying his living expenses? He seems to have a roof over his head and enough food to eat.

Looks like Stanley's a functional adult where it counts. Only he and his roommate are involved. No one's being harmed. Therefore the MYOB rule kicks in here.

Those of you expressing your disgust at his life, one would imagine that each and every one of you does something that would disgust others. Do you pick your nose when you're alone? Not change your sheets every week? Go commando once in a while? (all the time?) Go a little longer when you know you should have shaved under your arms? Not shower every day? Have a drinking problem? An eating problem? A drug problem? A sex problem? A gambling problem?

I could go on, but you get my point. To be human is to be a hypocrite. Look at your own imperfections before you start on someone else. The world would be a better place.

  • 6 votes
#1.11 - Thu May 5, 2011 9:48 AM EDT

I seriously cannot believe how much you douche bags judge this guy. The stuff you probably do at home is worse and you would be ashamed to share. He hurts no one, is a productive member of society, doesn't want to date (apparently, but don't care) and the former nurse obviously has no problem with it.

You know nothing about him, maybe he does have counseling, maybe they need each other. As someone else said, Judge only if you want to be judged.

Most of you make me sick.

    #1.12 - Thu May 5, 2011 10:03 AM EDT

    I think ricky has a lot to hide, look how defensive he is...

    • 1 vote
    #1.13 - Thu May 5, 2011 1:30 PM EDT

    Hmm, it seems he is feeling safe pretending he is a baby. But isn't our goal in this world to mature and grow? As a person who has a master's in developmental psychology, this is my point of view. Maybe he wants to volunteer for a local daycare so he can give some of that nurturing away to real infants in need? I say let him be. Each to his own. Good vibes to you buddy!

      #1.14 - Thu May 5, 2011 8:35 PM EDT

      You have a master's degree in bullshlt.

      • 1 vote
      #1.15 - Thu May 5, 2011 10:32 PM EDT

      I was just thinking the same, evanusk.

        #1.16 - Fri May 6, 2011 8:51 AM EDT

        Wow. This looks like it'd be interesting...for about two minutes...after that, excruciatingly boring....

        • 3 votes
        #1.17 - Fri May 6, 2011 12:18 PM EDT

        Old Stanley got some loose screws.

        • 1 vote
        #1.18 - Sun Jun 10, 2012 11:38 PM EDT
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        I am at a loss for words. This is incredible.

          Reply#2 - Wed May 4, 2011 9:14 PM EDT

          Can you just imagine the load that this guy has in his diaper?

          • 15 votes
          Reply#3 - Wed May 4, 2011 9:20 PM EDT

          I feel sorry for the person who has to change his diaper.

          • 2 votes
          #3.1 - Wed May 4, 2011 11:14 PM EDT

          Does this mean that the nurse is having sex with a baby? WOW, These two are a few cards less then a full deck of cards.....

          • 1 vote
          #3.2 - Thu May 5, 2011 4:34 AM EDT

          If you had read the article, you would have read that this is not a sexual fetish. I saw this episode just the other night and there is more to the story than they are reporting. Stanley was severely abused as a small child and has repressed all memories from his youth. He is obviously trying to recapture what he lost. And the woman involved, the roommate who takes care of him, is disabled and clinically depressed, but finds comfort in nurturing this poor man. Considering everything this man has gone through and where he could have ended up, this seems pretty innocent to me.

          • 8 votes
          #3.3 - Thu May 5, 2011 9:01 AM EDT

          I think it's interesting. Maybe the "nurse" should play a CD with some vintage music that he heard when he was little. That would also bring back for him a nice memory.

            #3.4 - Thu May 5, 2011 10:52 AM EDT

            What bothered me about this episode was not what he does in his own home it was the fact that he apperared to be very highly functioning and still recieving disability benifits. It showed them both running a website, Stanley making a trip to the local home improvement store buying materials alone, making the plans for his "furniture" and building it all without help. All on our dime. There are many people out there who cannot do any of these things for themselves who are denied these same benefits.

            • 3 votes
            #3.5 - Thu May 5, 2011 11:05 AM EDT

            I saw the episode too. And he suffers from PTSD as for the nurse I think she is retired and receving disability. plus she took over caring for this man after his long time caregiver past away from cancer. Also the show mentioned that Stanley was recieving disabilty but they did not mention how much he was recieving. All I can say is to each his own, he is not harming anyone and when he is not at home he's a normal functioning adult.

              #3.6 - Sun May 15, 2011 5:25 AM EDT
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              Oh Stanley Wanley,you made a BIG doody !

              • 2 votes
              Reply#4 - Wed May 4, 2011 9:21 PM EDT
              zdave87Deleted

              This is so dumb.

              • 2 votes
              Reply#6 - Wed May 4, 2011 9:23 PM EDT

              Okay I guess, but who's gonna fill in if his current "mother" is no longer there to care for him?

                Reply#7 - Wed May 4, 2011 9:24 PM EDT

                Good point, Angie. If he's always looking for someone else to fill his need for security, he will always have the possibility of being let down. I don't know about you, but I get my ultimate security from my faith in God. People can fail you, whether they mean to or not, but Jesus Christ says He'll never leave or forsake me.

                • 2 votes
                #7.1 - Wed May 4, 2011 9:31 PM EDT

                the loser let himself down! but gee, why worry about him....isn't he getting all this attention now?

                  #7.2 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:24 PM EDT

                  evanusk - what if he goes to church and believes in faith in god? Wouldn't you feel like an ass? You probably should because your religious psychobabble holds no value here. He believes in something tangible, not something a bunch of people made up.

                    #7.3 - Thu May 5, 2011 9:59 AM EDT

                    No, Ricky, I wouldn't. Refer to comment #10 by Linette Rolle just a few comments down on this page. Putting away childish things doesn't mean never having fun, but what this guy is doing is a total waste of time and energy and looks rather silly also!

                      #7.4 - Thu May 5, 2011 4:46 PM EDT
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                      This guy needs to date more

                      • 1 vote
                      Reply#8 - Wed May 4, 2011 9:36 PM EDT

                      The guy is afraid of rejection. The extra poundage is very telling.

                      Forget Stan participating in mature activity like dating unless he's shopping for a new mama-madonna. (...and I don't mean the material girl...madonna.) A lot of people lapse into some regressive behaviours but this guy is not well. He lives life avoidance.

                      His parents missed a boat somewhere, too.

                      • 1 vote
                      #8.1 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:05 PM EDT

                      who'd wanna date that freakazoid? oh well, a lot of freak freak-seekers out there! like that nurse. hey wait a minute... "nurse"? as in...? oooohhhh grosssssss!!!!!

                      • 2 votes
                      #8.2 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:33 PM EDT
                      snowdragonDeleted

                      MORE? Do you think this loser has EVER had a date? I doubt it.

                        #8.4 - Thu May 5, 2011 1:19 AM EDT

                        @snowdragon - that is the most accurate response ever.

                        • 1 vote
                        #8.5 - Thu May 5, 2011 10:00 AM EDT

                        Hey there -- removed snowdragon's comment. Language, people! Watch it!

                          #8.6 - Thu May 5, 2011 2:43 PM EDT

                          This guy is a chick repellent.

                            #8.7 - Thu May 5, 2011 7:29 PM EDT
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                            While I think what he does behind closed doors is none of my business. I really feel sorry for men/women who go to this extreme. He is being passed by the world. Once in a while, ok, but every night, and what about his care taker, she too is giving up a real life to play babysitter. Oh, well. What ever floats your boat.

                            • 4 votes
                            Reply#9 - Wed May 4, 2011 9:40 PM EDT

                            he reminds me of my ex,he is a natrual mama's boy around his mother. he allowed his mother,and her boyfreind to cause problems in our relationship. he allowed them to fight me for me and his house together.he moved them into our house. when he is not around them,he's a man. he

                            his mother said she dosen't want him to be a man,that she wants him to be a 3 yr old for as long as she lives. he likes being treated like that.

                            stanley is over doing it. he needs help,quite obviously. the bible says that when u become a man u put away childish things. he is picking them back up.

                            • 2 votes
                            Reply#10 - Wed May 4, 2011 9:51 PM EDT
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                            Stanley cannot do this by himself!!!!! He is being enabled by his "nurse" friend I think they both need

                            psych help

                            • 5 votes
                            Reply#11 - Wed May 4, 2011 9:54 PM EDT

                            Yea, there is something seriously wrong there to me on both their parts.

                              #11.1 - Thu May 5, 2011 9:05 AM EDT
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                              Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha HA! (What else can I say?)

                              • 2 votes
                              Reply#12 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:00 PM EDT

                              I hate to tell you Stanley.... yes ,you are crazy

                                Reply#13 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:04 PM EDT

                                I'm a phone sex operator, and I deal with these guys all the time. I think it's pretty silly. They talk 'baby-talk' too. I have to agree with a previous poster here, I think they are all crazy. You'd have to hear them talk to really know what I mean.

                                If you ever hear rubber underwear under someone's clothes - that's a dead giveaway. They love the rubber underwear. My advice? Just run, run away Forrest.

                                • 2 votes
                                #13.1 - Thu May 5, 2011 3:28 PM EDT
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                                350 lbs? I'll bet his parents are so proud of this looser. Was he deprived of oxygen at birth? What a waste of oxygen now.

                                  Reply#14 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:04 PM EDT

                                  Maybe mom and pop put a little to much Nyquil in his bottle?

                                    #14.1 - Thu May 5, 2011 2:09 AM EDT
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                                    These are persons you can be pretty darn sure do not wake up in the morning that will screw some one, any one over. so...so what(?). Leave them to be the gentle people they are with out criticism and instead pay more attention to upgrading ones own self.

                                    • 6 votes
                                    Reply#15 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:12 PM EDT
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                                    Relax people, only in America could someone be this brave to live his dream but SHARE it with the world. Do you know what they would do in the Middle East if this was revealed? We all collectively fight for these rights, if he is not harming others,,,have at it Stan, Oh!! and I hope all your pacifiers are Pink...which one's Pink?

                                    • 6 votes
                                    Reply#16 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:14 PM EDT

                                    OMG!! What a bunch of psychos!! They seriously need help! I think this is beyond crazy! I have never heard of this kind of behavior before! Someone really needs to give them a reality check!

                                    • 1 vote
                                    Reply#17 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:14 PM EDT

                                    Well Stanley, you've had your 15 minutes of fames.....Now you need fixed, your broken.

                                      Reply#18 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:29 PM EDT

                                      lol...lol....lol.... smart fat guy with smart nurse momma friend, whatever.... look at all the attention they're getting! lmao! i better get outta here!

                                        Reply#19 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:29 PM EDT

                                        Well, I agree this guy and his "nurse" are both substituting fetish for a real life and that they could both use some counseling, but certainly not any more than the hateful rant from zdave87. Seriously zdave, who is this poor dude hurting? Maybe you could join in with them for some much needed psycho-analysis and get a group discount.

                                        • 4 votes
                                        Reply#20 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:37 PM EDT

                                        baby dude is on welfare so he's aint so poor. and yes, he's hurting us taxpayers! he's also hurting viewers, especially the younger ones. see, this page doesn't need filtering and anybody can view it. and then again, it's other's people's fault too such as this website.

                                          #20.1 - Thu May 5, 2011 11:59 PM EDT
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                                          This totally disgusts me and freaks me out, why share this with the world? The guy should be ashamed. Then again, he probably has a mental illness.

                                          • 1 vote
                                          Reply#21 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:37 PM EDT

                                          I often think the comments on many stories are ignorant and mean. However, I'm surprised at the lack of repulsion. This is truly disgusting.

                                          • 1 vote
                                          #21.1 - Thu May 5, 2011 2:34 AM EDT
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                                          a wild snorlax appears!!!!!!!

                                          • 1 vote
                                          Reply#22 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:40 PM EDT

                                          Haha! That's funny. My kids love that pokemon character! The difference is, Stanley is NOT cute!

                                            #22.1 - Thu May 5, 2011 5:02 PM EDT
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                                            Ok......I`m speechless.

                                              Reply#23 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:41 PM EDT

                                              More than likely, this man needs professional intevention for his mental health issues.

                                                Reply#24 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:45 PM EDT

                                                I've watched the whole episode the other day. Stanley lives off welfare in case you guys are interested.

                                                This guy puts Chris Chan* to shame.

                                                *Chris Chan is an obese man child who is known for wearing horizontal striped T shirts in horrifyingly bright colors and living off social security for his High Functioning Autism but spends it on video games including the PS3 to name a few)

                                                  Reply#25 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:55 PM EDT

                                                  it doesn't surprise me. most obese and/or nutty peeps are on welfare. they've become too physically and/or mentally unfit to hold good jobs. either that or they're too busy grazing and/or role-playing to work. so yeah, they gotta be on welfare.

                                                  okay people, work it! work it! we have to feed stanley and buy him diapers and stuff. and don't forget, he needs his extra-durable high-chair. so work it, everyone! work it! (whip!)

                                                    #25.1 - Fri May 6, 2011 12:12 AM EDT
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                                                    Hope he's done all the dating he was going to do because after this story he'll never get another one.

                                                      Reply#26 - Wed May 4, 2011 10:56 PM EDT

                                                      The only woman in his life is a caretaker

                                                        #26.1 - Wed May 4, 2011 11:06 PM EDT
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