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Subscribe to RSSWrinkle-busting Botox has long been used to rev up the sex lives of women who blame waning allure on facial lines and creases, but doctors now say the injections can help smooth problems below the belt as well.
The newest use for botulinum Toxin A, the active ingredient in drugs such as Botox or Dysport, is to help ease painful vaginal conditions that plague women with excruciating burning sensations or constrict their muscles so tightly that sex is all but impossible.
“Almost to a patient, they say it’s like hitting a brick wall,” said Dr. Peter T. Pacik, a New Hampshire plastic surgeon who is conducting an FDA-approved clinical trial testing the use of Botox on severe cases of vaginismus. “Most patients I treat are unable to consummate, unable to have a family.”
Such patients – perhaps as many as 6 percent of all women worldwide – suffer from what Pacik describes as a reflex reaction to sexual penetration that causes their muscles to spasm. The problem is often rooted in fear caused by sexual abuse or a rigid upbringing, but it becomes unmistakably physical.
“It’s uncontrollable and involuntary,” said Pacik, the author of “When Sex Seems Impossible: Stories of Vaginismus & How You Can Achieve Intimacy.”
To treat the problem, Pacik injects the muscles at the entrance of the vagina with Botox, which works as it does in the face, interrupting nerve impulses and allowing the muscles to relax.
“When I inject them, I put them asleep,” he said. “You would not be able to approach these people with a needle.”
When they wake up, the women find that they are relaxed enough to allow penetration and, soon, to have normal sex with their husbands or partners. Pacik has treated 78 patients so far and all but one have virtually been cured after a single session, he said.
His work was echoed this week by a new report in the journal Archives of Dermatologythat said a 26-year-old woman was cured of vulvodynia, an excruciating, persistent burning vaginal pain, with the use of botulinum Toxin A injections.
And it was confirmed by Patti Dyer, a 59-year-old Maine nurse who said she has suffered from vaginismus for more than 30 years. Despite having three children, all delivered by cesarean section, Dyer said sex has always been painful to the point of tears. She and her husband, Bill, toughed it out because of their love for each other, she said. But when she heard about Pacik’s work, she had to try it.
On Jan. 10, Dyer had the $6,300 Botox treatment. Within two weeks, she said, she and her husband were able to have sex for the first time in a dozen years. With a month, they were catching up on lost time.
“We’re like honeymooners,” she said. “This is so exciting. This is what it should have been 30 years ago.”
Dyer would recommend Botox down below to anyone suffering like she was. But when it comes to using the drug in her face, she draws the line.
“Oh, no,” she said. “I’m not that vain. It’s just for the part that needs it.”
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The human body certainly is a very interesting contraption.
I thought it would be for getting rid of the wrinkles on the scrotum.
They is what I thought too
Vaginismus? I'm thinking a couple of glasses of wine and . . . to quote a song that was pretty popular in the 80s, "It feels like the first time. Feels like the very first time."
Miker you obviously have no idea what you are talking about. I suggest you research what Vaginismus actually is before you try to comment. I know..because I suffered from this condition before being treated by Dr. Pacik. Nothing worked before. I tried wine, anti-anxiety pills, and a host of other treatments and nothing worked. I was never abused as a child..there was no explanation for my condition. I just had spasms that made intercourse impossible. I went to New Hampshire and had the procedure and now I am totally cured and have a perfectly normal life.
Men are pigs.
Check your statistics little miss common sense, I think you will find that many more women are pigs than men.
Cured...that is great to hear, and I hope you and your significant other have no more problems. Ignore the bozos who say something different. He is lucky you cared enough to try so hard.
Miker, you are an idiot.
Primary Vaginismus.
If you have it, then your body is NOT designed for sex.
It is God's way of telling a woman that she is DESTINED to become a nun or celibate.
So if you have it, go on and BECOME A NUN.
Or be CELIBATE.
That's because it is God's way of controlling the global population. God created women with such sexual dysfunction to keep them away from sex and thus preventing conception. Unfortunately, most women don't realize it and would still go through days and weeks of therapy which is just time consuming.
Trying to remedy your condition is against God's will.
God does NOT want you to have sex.
If you're a woman, don't get married & don't have sex if your VAGINA wont let you.
God had CLOSED the gates of your virginity.
FACE IT! You have a NUN'S VAGINA.
It is time to give up on men and become a NUN.
I thought "spasms" was the goal, not the stop sign?
Maypaki, it's a shame your parents weren't practicing population control when you came along. Ignorance is not bliss. It's just ignorance. And you have a whole lot of stupid thrown in with your ignorance
I finally realized that God is indeed a MALE.
The reasons are:
1.) If God is a female, she would never inflict women with painful intercourse. She would merely inflict them with infertility. Her empathy towards women's feelings will always prevail.
2.) It is known in history that men treat women as property. Therefore, if God inflicts a woman with primary vaginismus, thick hymen or dry vagina, then her vagina is now the property of God. She's meant to control the population.
God uses her as an instrument to reveal who the real rapists are, thereby upholding women's most divine right -the right NOT to be raped.
This proves that God is a male, because for him, there are things more important than empathy towards females. This explains why painful intercourse is MORE COMMON among females than males.
Because God is a MALE and treats some women as his property to control the population.
I am now an enlightened man.
This is a real condition though I have issues with the reason behind it. I have been dealing with this condition of spasms and muscle tightness since 1996. "Miker" you clearly have zero clue as to what you are talking about so please do not share. I saw doctor after doctor after doctor and went though all kinds of treatments; shots, steroids, testosterone, and finally surgery. All gave me no respite. What works for me is physical therapy. I was skeptical at first but it works. It takes time and patience but it works. I am afraid after the Botox wears off (as it does) these women's spasms will come back. I can only hope the trial doctor's are urging their patients to also see a PT.
To Bethie2008. It does wear off (the botox), but by that time, your body is used to having intercourse and the muscles have "learned" not to contract. The botox only helps to start you off (something that vaginismus patients have a hard time doing). Physical therapy did not work for me-- it would have taken years. With this treatment- it took weeks. Dr. Pacik's office does teach physical therapy for a few days after the treatment with his patients (dialator therapy). That is a very important part of the process. If you want more info about it - just let me know.
I wish you the best- thanks for sharing : )
Primary Vaginismus.
If you have it, then your body is NOT designed for sex.
It is God's way of telling a woman that she is DESTINED to become a nun or celibate.
So if you have it, go on and BECOME A NUN.
Or be CELIBATE.
That's because it is God's way of controlling the global population. God created women with such sexual dysfunction to keep them away from sex and thus preventing conception. Unfortunately, most women don't realize it and would still go through days and weeks of therapy which is just time consuming.
Trying to remedy your condition is against God's will.
God does NOT want you to have sex.
If you're a woman, don't get married & don't have sex if your VAGINA wont let you.
God had CLOSED the gates of your virginity.
FACE IT! You have a NUN'S VAGINA.
It is time to give up on men and become a NUN.
VAGINISMUS may be the answer to overpopulation.
God truly works in strange ways.
Maypaki, You have absolutely no right to presume upon what you think God's will to be. Of all the far fetched things I have heard..this takes the cake! I don't know whether you are a man or a woman but you have no idea what you are talking about. You might as well say to a cancer patient not to treat their cancer because they were meant to die of cancer. Or even more applicable, its like telling a man with Erectile Dysfunction to just never get married, never have sex because his dysfunction is sent from God. That is ridiculous! It is heartless to tell a woman to never have sex and never be able to have children. If you are a woman I would think you should know this. Also, you obviously don't have this problem so It's none of your business what treatment women seek. The reason I think I had vaginismus is so I could meet Dr. Pacik and his wonderful staff who genuinly care about women like me and so I could help other women out there to know what treatment to seek so they can have fullfilling lives.
Maypaki, I guess that means if you get a diagnosis for disease, you won't treat it because God intends your demise.
I was treated by Dr. Pacik a year and a half ago, and the Botox wears off after six months. I have not had any re-occurence of the vaginismus since the injections, I am happy to say. Physical therapy did absolutely nothing for me and most of the women that I have talked to about this condition. If you are still dealing with it in any way, I would suggest contacting Dr. Pacik.
I wouldn't want to inject my privates, much less with an expensive, toxic poison. Who knows what effects it may have down the line? Wouldn't meditation or an anti-anxiety pill help with this issue?
You obviously have not researched about Botox and what it can do. Dr. Pacik's treatment is FDA approved. To answer your question, wine, anti-anxiety pills, and all the meditation in the world couldn't fix me. After over a year of marriage and no sex I thought there was no help for me. Dr. Pacik doesn't just inject random body parts. He is very skilled and knows exactly which muscles are spasming and need the botox. Less than 2 weeks after my procedure at Dr. Pacik's clinic, I was able to have intercourse for the first time ever! It's now going on a year and I have no side effects whatsoever. I am 100% cured.
let's check the ISP address on A-cured-patient....I'll bet it's Dr. Pacik himself or a close relative.
More kissing, more foreplay.
Go ahead and check the ISP on me.........I am a patient of Dr. Pacik's that had 3 surgeries to correct the problem and none of them worked (including 2 at Mayo clinic) and went through countless other treatments that did absolutely nothing. A year and a half after Dr. Pacik's treatment, I have not had a relapse. KnowitAll is a pretty apt name for you, since most people who think they know it all turn out to be idiots. And foreplay does absolutely nothing. This is not a mental or emotional problem where getting turned on coulse fix it. It's a physical problem. No matter how turned on you get, it still feels like you are having sex with a knife.
There is some confusion as to how long Botox is effective when treating vaginismus. In my experience it is rare that the patient needs more than one treatment. Once the patient has pain free intercourse, the reflex spasm of the entry muscle seems to disappear and vaginal spasm is no longer present. Thus more Botox is not needed.
For patients who have relationship issues, continued fear of penile penetration and low libido, continued therapy with counselors or PT can be very helpful.
I can vouch for this. I was treated by Dr. Pacik and only had one treatment. Within 2 weeks I was able to have intercourse. I didn't go to any counselors or therapists and I am fine almost a year later and still able to have pain free intercourse. No more Botox injections were neccessary. I am 100% cured. Thank you Dr. Pacik and staff for all you do!
Fascinating. If I were still practicing, I'd certainly try it.
A-cured-patient, you are beginning to sound like a-paid-advertiser.
Agreed................ slack off "Patient" or your sales pitch will not be as effective.
I don't have this problem, but "cured" doesn't sound like a paid spokesperson to me. She sounds like someone who is overjoyed to be able to experience sex, after being unable to do it for years. My grandfather married a woman back in the 40's who had a problem. I just remember that my mom told me once that sex was so painful for her that she couldn't have it. It sounds a lot like this same thing to me. It destroyed her self-esteem and their marriage. They got divorced after only a year. He married my grandmother several years later. He told me once that he only ever loved one woman. He and my grandmother had a relationship of convenience, not love. I know that he loved his first wife for his entire life, but this problem was so awful that it tore them apart, even though the love was still there. My grandfather has been dead for 15 years now, and that woman may be too. I hope that she found some kind of peace and resolution and that her problem didn't destroy her whole life. I don't think men can really understand how important sex is to intimacy for women, though perhaps a man who can't perform sexually due to some condition may be able to. It is one of the ultimate ways that a couple shows their love, affection and trust for one another. Not the only way, but definitely one of the top ways. Many women would feel like failures as women, unable even to be mothers in many cases, unless they could afford expensive treatments.
I have never suffered from this condition, but I have seen the people who survived the aftermath of it. I don't think that anyone can sing this treatment loud enough, and I hope a lot of women with these problems read this article and find a way to seek treatment. Most forms of female sexual dysfunction are not talked about enough, and the research has been slow to help anyone. While there are a multitude of little blue pills, etc. for men, women are expected to suffer in silence. Let her talk. After what she has suffered, she has earned it.
this condition can be truly devastating to a couple, its very real and the severity varies.. what treatments may work for some wouldn't even be possible for others suffering from the same problem. Dr. Pacik offers a different albiet new approach, Bethie2008 you should read Dr. Pacik's book, maybe someday you won't even need PT anymore? His process according to the book is comprehensive, it is not simply a one-day in and out procedure with no follow up work.
super_grrrrl78 Thank you for your comments, very well said, there's so much ignorance out there, I'm appalled....
The fact that Peter T. Pacik, MD, FACS himself is on these boards means that he is advertising himself. Doc, you should let readers comment. You already got enough press having the article written, so be grateful for that and step aside. Readers have the right to comment without you and your "patients" defending.
I have a feeling that the doctor himself is all of the "patients" that are commenting here. I'll bet they are all from same ISP address.
knowitall99, you really do not know anything. Dr. Pacik is on the boards because he is trying to educate people about a condition that very few people are aware of.
To Hot-in-Miami: unfortunately medication and anti-anxiety pills don't help. This is a real muscular contration that can not be helped that way. I was suffering for many years with this and I'm one of Dr. Pacik's patients-- the treatment worked for me. I saw countless doctors who could not help me in the past. The injection is only in your muscles inside-- it just relaxes them temporarily so that they don't contract and close. Meanwhile, the patient can start to have sex (something they could never do before) and then they can get used to it. Eventually the Boxtox wears off and is no longer present - and not needed. It's approved safe by the FDA. It was seriously life-changing for me; I hope it can help others suffering from this horrible condition.
My wife had severe primary vaginismus, to the extent that using a tampon, having a GYN exam, and having sex were all completely impossible. The muscle contractions literally made it feel like a wall blocking off the vagina. We, as some people on here have expressed, speculated that the use of anxiety drugs, alcohol, counseling, and a variety of other solutions would help. We tried each of these and none of them worked - and this is what you'll find to be the common story among those who suffer from true vaginismus. We were lucky enough to stumble upon information about Dr. Pacik on the internet. While it seemed like an extreme solution at first, we had literally exhausted every other means and all the ideas of normal gynecologists. We flew to New Hampshire for Dr. Pacik's procedure, and immediately after the surgery she had made huge progress. Within 7 weeks were able to have intercourse normally with no issues at all. The Botox has now long since worn off, but the subconscious process in her brain that activated those muscles in response to anxiety about impending penetration has been eliminated. The Botox allowed her body to learn that the penetration is not painful, and as such the unneeded reflex diminished. After 6 years of marriage with no sex and no hope of ever having children, Dr. Pacik's procedure resolved what seemed like a hopeless situation for us.
I suffered from a severe case of vaginismus and was unable to consummate my marriage. I tried wine to relax and it didn't work. I went to the doctor for anti-anxiety pills and they didn't work. I went to a physical therapist to learn how to relax the pelvic floor muscles and it didn't work (after months my therapist told me she couldn't help me). Nothing worked until I went to see Dr. Pacik for the botox treatment. I was terrified not knowing what to expect - I hate needles. But they put me under anesthesia and I woke with the procedure complete. And guess what? IT WORKED! It's been almost a year and my husband and I now have a sex life. No side effects, no repeat treatment needed. Dr. Pacik and his revolutionary procedure saved my marriage!
Please, any of you that have written in: When you had the vaginismus problems, did it have any effect on your orgasms? (Done without intercourse.) Were they like getting electrocuted for example? Thank you. Thank you.
Really??
When they wake up, the women find that they are relaxed enough to allow penetration and, soon, to have normal sex with their husbands or partners.
That just sounds so WRONG!.. but yes, I guess he has to test them right away... doesn't he? (just saying..)
I think you're inferring something that's inaccurate. Troll.
I wonder how many of these conditions are related to horrible friction-related feelings caused by male circumcision.
I never found that to be a problem LOL :)
It's a condition you are born with, not one that is caused by "friction"
I suffered from vaginismus for many years including 4 years of my marriage and we tried everything we could (wine, lighting candles, playing soft music, pills, lubrication, etc.) but nothing worked. All the GYN doctors I saw could not pinpoint the problem and family/friends just said to keep trying. I eventually found the website www.vaginismus.com on my own and got a dilation kit. I was able to make some progress but was not fully cured. I found out about Dr. Pacik on youtube and flew to New Hampshire for the procedure. Within the first month, I was able to have pain-free intercourse. I know there are others who had this procedure and gave vaginal birth to healthy babies. Thanks to Dr. Pacik and team many women are able to overcome vaginismus!
I think what I find so amazing besides the treatment is that so many of you sufferers on here were able to find husbands w/o much hope of ever having sex! I mean we makes comments in society about men and their libido, cheating, etc but there really are some fairly decent guys out there who stood by your side through it all. Good job doctor but great job husbands.
Leslie, what a wonderfully insightful comment. Credit to Dr. Pacik and to the women whose success stories can inspire other women to seek this treatment, but let's also give credit to the male partners out there for supporting these women.
My husband and I have had our problems due to this condition (marriage is hard without that kind of intimacy) but he asked me to marry him after we knew about my condition and he was fully aware of the fact that there was a possibility we would never be able to have sex before we got engaged.
Perhaps Common, but you have sex with us so what does that say about you?
I too am yet another patient who was completely cured by the use of Botox for Vaginismus. I stumbled across Dr. Pacik on You-Tube and last June drove down to New Hampshire to have this treatment done. My husband and I have been totally amazing at the progress and we can now have intercourse without any pain after just one treatment. We were able to have complete pain-free intercourse only two weeks after the treatment and continue to now even though the Botox has long worn off. For all of you who have suffered in silence with this horrible condition -there is hope and it's call Botox for Vaginismus! Dr. Pacik and his staff we thank you for your education and continued fighting for this incredible treatment!
Cured by the botox treatment... the best decision made!! Thanks to doctor Pacik
And now we are proud parents to our little baby boy!!
It is nice to see that more and more word is getting out the the public about vaginismus and the botox treatment. Dr. Pacik treated me and I am cured. I tried many things before I found Dr. Pacik. It is sad that our culture is trained to think that women with vaginismus or any other sexual disorder are "crazy," "uptight," or any of the other hurt and untrue terms people assume. It is not all in our heads and it is not easily cured by relaxing or using some anxiety drug. I am grateful I found Dr. Pacik and I love reading all the other success stories. I hope every article, book, youtube video or media appearance reaches another women in need. Dr. Pacik and his staff are wonderful people and really care about their patients. If you are suffering from vaginismus or know someone who is I strongly urge you to call Dr. Pacik's office. He can connect you with other women who have gone through the procedure as well as answer any questions you may have.
In addition to having Botox injected into the majority of my pelvic floor muscles every 3-4 months for three years, I have also had surgery (decompression of the pudendal nerve on both sides), and I've followed through with weekly sessions of physical therapy for several years......still, I am plagued with pain & paraesthesia throughout the genital region rendering me markedly incapacitated. It's decidedly depressing, as well as painful....pudendal neuropathy is no laughing matter, any neuropathy is no laughing matter.....people who have never experienced neuropathic pain have no idea what this experience is like...
Karen, I saw a show recently on Vaginismus and there was a young lady with severe vaginal pain and it ended up being cause from a hip problem (maybe injury). Have you had an MRI of the hip and pelvic area? It is just a thought. Who would have ever known that a hip problem could cause severe vaginal pain?
First I cannot believe the ignorance of some of the people that have commented on this article. I started out in my early twenties with a vaginal skin condition called Lichen Sclerosis. For some reason after the birth of my 3rd child I started having serious problems with the Lichen Sclerosis. Sex became excruciating. About 3 years ago I decided I was not going to torture myself by agreeing to have painful sex with my husband just so he would not cheat on me so we quit having intercourse. Last year I had surgery to correct the Lichen Sclerosis issue and after I healed my husband and I tried to have intercourse and Icould not take the new pain which was at the entrance to my vagina. It was a pain I had never experienced. After much reasearch I figured out (and later confirmed with a new Dr.) that I now had Vaginismus. I suppose I developed it because I had previously had such painful intercours that I subconsiously think it is going to hurt and therefore have the spasms.
I would love to go to Dr. Pacik but after spending $6,000 on my Lichen Sclerosis problem in the past year I just can't afford to go to him. I wish so badly that he would teach other Dr.'s across the country to give the injections so that more women that are suffering could get the help they so desperately need.
Unless you have had a condition like this you would have no idea how much suffering goes on. I feel worthless as a wife. I have told my husband several times to just divorce me because he deserves a normal sex life. He refuses. Like someone else said here there is a connection that takes place with intercourse that you just can't duplicate by just "fooling around". I am blessed to have a husband that says he doesn't care about the sex, he just needs me. I, however, am sick and tired of having a partial sex life.
I just pray that it won't be long until insurance companies are fully educated about the pain and suffering women are going through with this condition and will approve this procedure.
Good news!
My fiance and I can't have sex because I have vaginismus, it is so painful we have to stop because I start crying. I would love to have a normal sex life - he deserves at least one night of romance - but we can't afford $6,000 for it. How would I convince my health insurance that botox is a necessary procedure? It's great to know they have found something that works, maybe they can work on making it affordable, too.
Primary Vaginismus.
If you have it, then your body is NOT designed for sex.
It is God's way of telling a woman that she is DESTINED to become a nun or celibate.
So if you have it, go on and BECOME A NUN.
Or be CELIBATE.
That's because it is God's way of controlling the global population. God created women with such sexual dysfunction to keep them away from sex and thus preventing conception. Unfortunately, most women don't realize it and would still go through days and weeks of therapy which is just time consuming.
Trying to remedy your condition is against God's will.
God does NOT want you to have sex.
If you're a woman, don't get married & don't have sex if your VAGINA wont let you.
God had CLOSED the gates of your virginity.
FACE IT! You have a NUN'S VAGINA.
It is time to give up on men and become a NUN.
VAGINISMUS may be the answer to overpopulation.
God truly works in strange ways.
Maypaki, I googled your name and sure enough you have similar rants on other sites. Step away from the keyboard... now go watch some TV!
Spend the money you would on a wedding on the procedure instead. Trust me, it will bring you much more joy in the long run. Elope or do a tiny home wedding. Really, it's just a day.
Boomkin-
My insurance paid for 80% of the procedure. Dr. Pacik's office fought with them for a few months until they stopped classifying it as a cosmetic procedure. It took a little work on their part, but insurance did pay for it. I had to travel across the country which was an out of pocket expense, but all of your out of pocket expenses for the procedure can be claimed on your taxes. Dr. Pacik's office also has a payment plan option. They are committed to helping women with this problem and will help you.
I am very excited to say that Dr. Pacik has lowered his cost for this procedure. It is now $3,850.00 If you are between 20 and 40 years of age you may qualify to receive the Botox itself for free, reducing the cost by around $700 more dollars. I have a call in to the lady that handles the insurance for Dr. Pacik to see what insurance might reimburse for which would lower the cost even more. Now that I know this, I more than likely will be making a trip to New Hampshire soon. After not being able to have intercourse for 3 years it would be worth every penny to be able to have intercourse withing a couple of weeks to a couple of months of having this done.
I'm pretty sure that after allowing someone to stick your vagina with a needle, a plain old penis wouldn't seem so bad. :/ God, ladies, why don't you try something a bit cheaper and less medicalized first - you know, like plain old masturbation. Go watch the Vagina Monologues and have some self-confidence.
Did you read any of the prior comments? I believe every one of the women who were helped by this procedure had tried many things beforehand and found that nothing worked. Considering that this procedure is expensive, I'm sure most of them felt as though it was a last resort.
First of all, the article said they are put to sleep. That means they don't even know it is going on. Put your judging asside and read the entire article again. Second, had you read it correctly, you would have figured out that even maturbation would hurt. Third, I am ure these women would love to have more self confidence. This procedure will help that. When you are not able to do something that everyone assumes is just a part of nature, it does take away a LOT of self confidence. And fourth, The only thing God has to do with any of this is continually giving these women and their spouses strength to go so long in this situation. I pray that you never have such a difficult experience, because, based on your comments here, you would never be able to handle it.
Primary Vaginismus.
If you have it, then your body is NOT designed for sex.
It is God's way of telling a woman that she is DESTINED to become a nun or celibate.
So if you have it, go on and BECOME A NUN.
Or be CELIBATE.
That's because it is God's way of controlling the global population. God created women with such sexual dysfunction to keep them away from sex and thus preventing conception. Unfortunately, most women don't realize it and would still go through days and weeks of therapy which is just time consuming.
Trying to remedy your condition is against God's will.
God does NOT want you to have sex.
If you're a woman, don't get married & don't have sex if your VAGINA wont let you.
God had CLOSED the gates of your virginity.
FACE IT! You have a NUN'S VAGINA.
It is time to give up on men and become a NUN.
VAGINISMUS may be the answer to overpopulation.
God truly works in strange ways.
trolls trolls trolls trolls idiot trolls...
Maypaki-people like you give christians a bad name. no wonder everyone thinks we are judgemental freaks.
and Sour, you have to be trying to get a rise out of people, because no one could seriously be as ignorant as your statement makes you out to be.
That is exactly the point. Nothing else worked. Physical therapy, pills, steroids, lidocaine, and finally surgery (at Mayo Clinic and other) did not work. The Botox is a last resort for those of us that have this conditionThis isn't a mental condition where getting more comfortable with your body works. It is a medical condition. When you have this condition, sitting for too long hurts. Wearing a thong hurts. Wearing tight clothes can hurt. so actually having someone else touch you or touching yourself is excruciating. It has nothing to do with self-confidence, by the way. I am a model and I do mixed martial arts several times a week with a class full of guys. I do not now nor have I ever had a self-confidence problem. Being a model I am not particularly modest, and whether or not my body was working the way it is supposed to, I am perfectly comfortable in my own skin. Ignorance is not bliss. It's just plain ignorance.
I have gone through years of thinking that I am a freak of nature because I couldn't have sex. I went to doctor after doctor and they all just told me that it was in my head. Sex with my husband would feel like I was having sex with a knife, and gyno exams were excruciating. I had to have my hymen surgically removed, and that didn't even solve the problem. Turned out I had vaginismus and vestibulitis. After a vestibulectomy at Mayo Clinic took care of most of the issues with the skin pain, I still had the vaginismus to deal with. It didn't feel like I was having sex with a knife anymore, it just felt like there was a brick wall that we couldn't get past. I heard about Dr. Pacik from the internet and decided to give it a shot (no pun intended), since no amount of therapy, meditation, medication, alcohol, or anything else was having any effect. My husband told me after the procedure that even while I was under anesthesia my muscles were locked up tight and nothing could get through. I have been virtually pain free for almost a year now, and although I do still struggle with the mental and emotional side of it, I finally have hope that I can function like a normal healthy adult.
Jesus Christ. Have you ever thought about just becoming a lesbian and calling it a day? If penetration is that painful, maybe it's just not meant to be. Not everyone is supposed to procreate and god knows there's enough starving, lonely children in the world who need good homes.
Why should a woman have to get her vagina injected with anything in order to please a man?
Seems like most men prefer oral sex anyway so I guess that's an option.
Really? To please a man? I am not sure about other women, but I enjoy being pleased myself, and not orally. And maybe you shouldn't procreate. This world does not need someone else with your closed minded, un-educated views and hate!
Primary Vaginismus.
If you have it, then your body is NOT designed for sex.
It is God's way of telling a woman that she is DESTINED to become a nun or celibate.
So if you have it, go on and BECOME A NUN.
Or be CELIBATE.
That's because it is God's way of controlling the global population. God created women with such sexual dysfunction to keep them away from sex and thus preventing conception. Unfortunately, most women don't realize it and would still go through days and weeks of therapy which is just time consuming.
Trying to remedy your condition is against God's will.
God does NOT want you to have sex.
If you're a woman, don't get married & don't have sex if your VAGINA wont let you.
God had CLOSED the gates of your virginity.
FACE IT! You have a NUN'S VAGINA.
It is time to give up on men and become a NUN.
VAGINISMUS may be the answer to overpopulation.
God truly works in strange ways.
Knowitall........let me applaud your arrogance and you ignorance. Becoming a lesbian does not solve a medical problem. This is not an emotional or mental issue. I do not want to have children and I never have wanted to have children, so there goes that argument. Sex is not just for procreation. It sounds like that is the only reason anyone wants to have sex with you, so I almost feel sorry for you. I also have no interest in getting needles shoved into my lady parts for a man. I did it for me because I was sick of living with the pain. It wasn't just about sex, it ws affecting my everyday life; sitting for too long or doing my martial arts could make it flare up. And when you feel that kind of pain in any area associated with sex, you don't really want to have any kind of sexual contact, oral or otherwise. When I had the Botox done I would have been perfectly okay with never having sex again, but it didn't just affect my sex life. And Maypaki..........population control is a great idea! Let's set the clock back and start out the whole population control thing with your parents. Either they are ashamed to have a child like you, or they should not have procreated in the first place.
Good work, Doc! I'm glad women with this debilitating condition now have some hope of leading normal sex lives.